I've always been interested in myself and other people - why we act the way we do. I'm very independent and sort of an outsider. I'm usually not that comfortable in larger groups, even with my closer friends. I've always been a one on one person. It's so more intimate and I kind of hate small talk anyway. I'd rather say nothing.
I used to get angry pretty easily, even when younger. I remember getting into grade school fights with kids who sould make fun of me wearing the same jeans every day or sleeping on the floor because we couldn't afford beds. The funny thing is that I still sleep on the floor today, and I like it a lot. :) It was pretty funny the first time I saw a traditional Japanese bed/mat. I was probably even angrier as a teenager, then one day in band I had a sort of personal revelation. I decided not to get mad anymore. Now of course I get angry now and then like everyone else, but I wanted to stop being angry at the little things. It was kind of a turning point for me where I realized that if I wanted to change something about myself, it was completely in my power to do so. I guess that's when I started taking control of my life.
I see living as very similar to driving. Some people like a little control, but not too much. They drive an automatic and ask the person next to them where they should go next. Some other people don't even want to drive and they insist that someone else do it for them. Some have to consult a map, and some don't even know they have the ability to drive. Me, I drive a standard and I get directions when I need them. I love being in control of my own life. It's an amazing feeling when you realize that you can pretty much do whatever you want and that's not just a trite phrase.
I didn't accidentally get involved in video games, I decided that that was what I was going to do and I did it. I'm not a producer by accident either - I got in as a programmer and worked my way into the role over time. Ever since I worked as a manager in my college cafeteria I knew I wanted to be in management. Manager is such a dirty word. :) But because I'm fair, work hard and give people the freedom they want, people love having me as their boss. And I love taking care of them.
I had a love / hate relationship with humanity for a long time. I loved people one on one, but saw the horrible things people did to each other and thought maybe it was best that we died out someday. But as I've gotten older I've realized that people who do bad things aren't bad. There is almost always a reason behind their acts. And more often than not it comes down to them being confused, hurt, sad, or angry and making a bad decision. I used to be fascinated with serial killers when I was younger. I wanted to know how people could do such horrible things. Then it seemed like almost every story told of extreme abuse, horrible parenting, or just brain damage. Then their actions seemed more sad than mysterious. Most people don't want to believe that we create most of our own killers.
Sean, your story above speaks to me. I was a very angry kid as well, until one day I also decided to not be under an AngryCloud any more because it was ruining my life. I had also learnt to AssumeGoodFaith, or at least know that people are three dimensional, while trying to become management rather than Wiki:JustaProgrammer. Welcome to MeatballWiki. I'll be looking forward to see what you have to say. -- SunirShah